My Action Research

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ME AND MY MONKEY

I have been asking my son all the time to do things on time. I ask him to get up on time, go to play on time, have food on time, study on time and the most important watch television on time. He never ever did what I told him. I was so confused. Why does he do that? I used to get angry at him and shouted as loud as a tigress. I showed I’m upset with him. He used to immediately start doing what I had asked him to do. Whenever I talked in such a manner my son did things in compulsion, he was not doing things willingly. I could see him doing things with a low face and then throwing tantrums later.

Children think parents are to scream and shout and we think kids do what they want to and not obey parents. Interestingly it was something else happening which I realized later. I was preparing for few exams and asked my son to study while I was studying. To my surprise he sat on his own and did all the things on time. I was so happy to see him do all the work on time. I asked him “how have you changed ? “. He said “Mummy, when you can sit on time, study on time, eat on time, sleep on time, watch TV on time so why cant I “ I was surprised and happy.

That’s when I realized that we are basically observers. What we observe we eventually do the same. My son was doing as I was doing for so many days and years. It’s not possible you ask your son to draw when he is not seeing any one drawing around him. You cannot ask them to study while you are watching television. You cannot stop them to fight and argue incase you do the same in front of them or with them. You cannot ask them to ignore and be calm if you loose your temper every after 10 minutes. You can’t stop them using abusive language incase you are using them while driving, on the phone or in the family while talking. We need to gear up. Children are observing us every minute. They will imitate the same later. I would humbly request you all to talk to the children as much as we can. What we think is not what they are thinking.

I remember during a workshop on communication skill an example was discussed. A boy of class 1 gave a rose to his class teacher and touched her hand whenever he got the opportunity. The teacher got upset and without talking to the child she called the parents in the principal office. The father and the son were sitting next to the teacher in the principal office. As the complaint started taking the shape of an argument the principal asked all of them to be quite. He asked the small boy “why do you touch the teacher ?” the boy said “ my teacher always wears a sleeveless blouse and the same type of blouse my mother use to wear” the principal said “ so why do you touch her?” the boy said “ she died 6 months back but I don’t feel her absence as I always see my mother in my teacher”. That was the line to be uttered and the teacher was shocked and in tears. She repented for her action and left the teaching profession since then.

A simple conversation can help us to know the mindsets of our children. Every human is unique, some thoughts might be similar but most of the time they differ. I have been through many instances where I feel I was wrong and the child was right. I feel I have become mature in handling small issues of children. I was wrong ! every time I have to sit and talk to the children and we really take time for a comfortable solution.

These issues might be very small for us to think as we have passed that age but they are very important for children as it keeps disturbing them. I feel they have a small world of their own which is sometimes bullied, abused, argued etc. which for them becomes difficult to handle and they fall in the trap of fighting their own battle without any guidance. They stop for asking guidance as the people to give them guidance stop listening to them and empower their thoughts on them. Children are very soft by emotion, sweet to talk, simple in thoughts , smart to observe and they have beautiful smile and eyes to express the most honest feeling to you. Children are the reflection of the parents, family, values, education on the society. I am happy I am understanding my baby and enjoying the parenthood.

Reversal of service before self

MEET PUBLIC AS PUBLIC MEETS ELECTORAL CANDIDATES DURING ELECTION CAMPAIGN

Election campaign is in full swing. Defying high heat (up to 46^oC ) campaign is to cover a big area of constituencies located at far flung places in the country.

Aviation industries estimates at least sixty or more charted helicopters/Jets engaged in ferrying candidates of various political parties to their desired places.

Charted helicopters are for Mrs Sonia Gandhi, Rahul Gandhi, and other congress political leaders. BJP too has engaged charted helicopter for Mr L.K.Advani and other member apart from Lalu Yadav, Sharad Yadav, Sharad Pawar and more.

Charted helicopter range from 5-10 seater capacity and 10 seater helicopter almost cost 1 lakh per hour whereas 4 seater cost 75 thousand / hour.

The rich parties having abundance of funds have better chances of penetrating in the public, pull more crowd towards them and obviously have better chances of winning election and vice-versa.

It is up to election committee to access and provide uniform opportunity to other parties who are humble and regional or national.

Are we not reminded of abundant party funds, their sources and how shall parties after winning election are to compensate to donors?

Shall we call this campaign for free and fair election?

Can we expect a normal honest humble candidate to win and be a part of the government in power?

Can comfort loving political candidates bring an honest hard working government to sort out national problems like poverty, Law and order, unemployment, agricultural growth, socio-economic growth, village uplift, education and medical facilities and many more like this?

If this trend of excessive pomp and show, costly visit by air to pull the huge crowd, buying votes of public by cash or kind continue in our election campaign, the scope of the befitting government in power shall be adversely affected.

“Just do not preach but practice honesty and place service before self “

I am waiting for that election campaign where normal life is not disturbed and a humble honest candidate with potential to fight the election by minimum expenditure incurred during his/her election campaign.

Awards being hoodwinked

National award ceremony hoodwinked

On Tuesday 14^th April 2009 was the national award giving ceremony by President of India when Mahender Singh Dhoni and Harbhajan Singh both Padamshri awardees conspicuously absented them selves and did not receive their awards. There seems to be successive flow of uncivilized omissions or act of crime like throwing shoes, returning medals and absenting from award ceremony at national level.

It is high time that nation should ponder for the reasons and workout solution for the same.

Incase of ibid cricketers appears to be intentional with out assigning any reason. It is pertinent to elicit whether proper protocol was followed while invitation and due conformation was obtained by the invites. Since this act of boycotting has been caused by cricketers it requires in-depth enquiry which shall be the basis of taking any remedial measures.

The possible reasons could be by individual fault or prejudice, organisational laps or doubtful selection.

The game of cricket in India draws keen attention by public so much that harsh or hard tackling would be detrimental to public pleasure or moral. Facts brought out by enquiry to be made public and realisation of the guilt be made by guilty or defaulter. This issue may not require any administrative or judicial punishment but realisation by defaulters be made.

“ This will solve the problem and protect the sanctity of such national awards without jeopardising the interest of cricket lovers.”

Vote for perfect Government

This Five year election is almost knocking your door. Parties are polarising, so called pre-election alliance. After election, a second round of polarisation or alliance will take place to prove majority in order to form the government.

Secular, Non- Secular and independent candidates will polarise after winning in election. Congress with MPA, BJP with NDA and third front mainly non-secular union is likely as pronounced by Mulayam, Lalu and Paswan may further unite with like minded parties to gain the entry into power. As all three names mentioned above are strongly wishing to become PM. Seeing the political scenario there will leave no stone unturned to avail the opportunity to gain the majority or win the number game.

Voters primarily rural and urban elite or humble may caste their votes according to their wisdom. However voters from UP and Bihar will primarily caste their votes on caste basis. Election commission is reacting to all complaints where code of conduct laid down by election commission. Defaulters are being keenly observed and punished according to the seriousness of offence.

Manifestoes performances of the party and candidates respectively are brought to the notice of public as to guide them to caste their votes exercising their wisdom. Atleast it is being aimed! It appears that manifestoes of the parties or performance of candidates will be exercising in futility for caste ridden states like UP and Bihar.

In this situation I would like to suggest the following to the Indian public.

ü Judge the candidate on their merits and demerits without killing conscious.

ü Scrutinise wealth and assists disclose by the candidates and gauge their honesty.

ü Past performances analysis should not be judged only by claims put across by party or candidates instead it should be analysed on the basis of public satisfaction and personal knowledge if their any in respect of roads, traffic, security, sanitation, education, law and order and Job creations.

Remember you get government you deserve. Keep in mind that your personal interest should come next to public interest. VOTE YOU MUST AND VOTE WISELY.

Sikh, Journalist or Jarnail - What ?

Jarnail – A Journalist or Communal ?

Jarnail furls his shoe on Home Minister in conference held on April 7, 2009 on the issue of Tytler given clean chit by CBI.
Incident of furling a shoe on Home Minister by a Sikh journalist in a press conference on 7/4/09 when Mr Chidambaram, HM was discussing to Terrorism. Mr. Jarnail Singh with due permission had asked HM whether decision of CBI to give clean chit to Mr. Jagdish Tytler was under some pressure by Government. The answer given by Mr. Chidambaram that CBI is an autonomous body did not convince Jarnail Singh a reporter from Danik Jagran. Perhaps it was fixed in the mind of Jarnail Singh that Tytler was just let off by CBI under governments pressure without being examining the case thoroughly especially just before election to suit Tytler.

A very witty question was asked by another interviewing journalist of repute that reporter under reference was placing himself as journalist first or a member of Sikh community first. The reporter replied he was representing as a journalist first. The question then arises why he committed this criminal act?

The journalist posed to be apologetic to this act and put the blame on his emotional outbreak. Justifying it, Jarnail represented Sikh community first and reporter later.

The journalist Jarnail Singh has been pardoned by the Home Minister and Congress party, though this criminal act has been against the government as HM was holding this meeting on behalf of government.

Views by eminent Journalist, Lawyer, Politician in favour and against this unpleasent, criminal act has been viewed by Indian public on various channels of TV.

In my opinion judiciary action is needed against Jarnail Singh and not merely pardoned as this may result in following –

Some more such incidents may occur in future.
Incident if not fully investigated, there are chances of missing its deep root.
Danger of eruption of communal violence in the country.
Misuse of journalism as profession

The whole nation is watching with curiosity the outcome of 1984 Sikh riot and awaiting impartial judgment.

Pattern Investigation - India

Grade 3 and grade 4 are working on a very interesting topic called Pattern Investigation.

They are trying to create different patterns with the help of Colors, Clay, Paper, Leafs, Glasses, Vegetables and many more things found in the Environment or related to our Culture in India.

Let me give you an Example.

Heena of grade 3 is creating a pattern with the help mehndi.

Steps to follow are:

Collect some mehndi in a cup.

Pour some water.

Mix them together to make a paste.

Pour it in a conical shaped polly bag with a small hole on the tip of the cone. keep it a side.

Trace your hand on a chart.

Create a design of your own imagination.

Let it dry.

Cover with a transparent sheet.

Investigation

Type of leaf -- Environment

Mixing water with measurement -- Maths

Creating a design -- Develop the skill to imagine and create.

Tradition to apply mehndi on hands before marriage - Culture

Try it !! it will be a great fun and a new thing to learn